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Forgiveness
Forgiveness and how it can assist us to make life easier.
Firstly lets look at some of the things that we can face in
life that need our effort to forgive and why.
In most cases forgiveness involves another person in our
lives and quite often that other person is someone that we
have had an intimate relationship with. If not intimate
then it could be a close friend or someone that we work
with often.
I will use the example of forgiving another person, because
it is common, but you can use the tools with anything in
your life that needs forgiveness.
Before I give you tools on how to forgive, I will firstly
explain why it is so imperative that you do the forgiveness
work.
Lets imagine you've been hurt in a relationship and the
pain is deep, it is so deep that you decide you never want
to forgive him or her for the pain you have endured, NEVER
will you forgive! You'll never let this happen again! The
first obvious thing to see here is that you are closing the
doors to letting new exciting love into your life, you will
have so many rules and regulations about who you will let
in, to protect yourself from being hurt again, that you'll
either never meet anyone or if you do they will be far too
boring for you.
Now lets look at what happens inside your body when you
make a decision not to forgive. Basically by not forgiving,
a blockage of energy is created because you are holding
anger or fear inside your body related to the situation
that caused the pain in the first place.
As long as you remain unforgiving you keep the hurt or
anger inside. With time, of course, the strength of the
emotional charge will be much less but if you haven't
forgiven, then any time a similar situation shows up in
your life you will get angry again, because the pain is
still locked inside of you. You may see a man or woman
doing something similar to what happened to you and it will
infuriate you.
As time goes on this blockage of energy that is still
within your body will need to escape and it will do
everything it can to get your attention to it. The best way
the body knows to get you to wake up to a problem, is to
give you pain, simply to bring your attention to the cause
of the problem.
Remember, the pain is only there to wake you up to
something that needs your attention, not to actually hurt
you. You see when we are in pain we take note, we wake up
to ourselves, pain is a tool the body uses to wake us up to
either a negative pattern of behaviour we may be
unconsciously demonstrating in our lives or a blockage of
energy that needs attention. Sometimes you can get to the
root cause of a problem simply by asking yourself "when did
this pain start? and what was going on in my life at that
time? You would probably find that at around the time the
pain started, there was an issue going on in your life. It
is from that place that you could start the healing work.
Please note that not all health issues are related to
negative beliefs, sometimes the health problem is there
because that is exactly what the soul needs for its
fulfillment or evolution this lifetime, but that's a whole
different topic.
What is important to know is that if you know you are not
forgiving someone or some situation, you could end up with
such a big blockage within, that you may create a very
serious disease for your self, so you see now why it is so
important to start the forgiveness work.
If forgiveness was easy, we would all do it, so why is it
so difficult? Well if you look at life in general, usually
the bigger the problem the bigger the diamond to be found
within the problem.
So with forgiveness, for sure there is a great reward for
those who finally get to that place of real forgiveness.
One of the reasons we don't forgive is that the ego wants
the other person to suffer because of the pain we had to
suffer, so we don't want to let them off the hook, but
remember, by not forgiving, we keep the pain inside of us,
which could lead to a serious illness. The other person may
be out having a great time and we won't forgive because we
want them to suffer, but who is really suffering?
The above is one reason why we don't forgive but the main
reason is that if we did forgive, everything about us would
change. You see when you get to real forgiveness, your
whole vibration will change, your heart will open, you will
become a lighter being, a more loving and expanded person
and you will have to do the things you are afraid of, you
may have to be the powerful person that you have been
putting off for years. You may have to step up and be a
responsible individual and follow your souls calling. So by
not forgiving you get to stay in the little you, when you
forgive, you heal a deep seated wound within which was
purposefully put there by your psyche to get you to a more
loving place in life.
So you can now see that the whole situation that created
your pain in the beginning was part of a grand scheme to
get you to a more expanded place, how cool is that??? Now
it wasn't just created for you only, everyone involved has
their part in the play, but you need only be concerned with
your part.
There is nothing that is happening, has happened or will
ever happen in your life that your deep unconscious has not
created as a way for you to learn more about your self. And
here's the amazing thing, by forgiving, you find the
diamond that was hidden by your pain. The diamond will
always be something way greater than what you think you are
losing, in your pain there is always an awesome opportunity
to expand your consciousness and find so much more of who
you are, so never try and escape your pain, it is only ever
there to draw your attention to the greater part of your
self and forgiveness is the fuel to ignite and activate
that greater part of you.
Remember: whenever there is a problem in your life, YOU are
always there!!! It must have something to do with you, cos
there you are looking at it.
Your task is always to align your personality with your
soul and it is an easy thing to do:- Just state an
intention that you want to align your personality with your
soul and every time you feel hurt or angry talk to your
non-physical teachers and say "I want to learn this lesson
with love and wisdom, please take me there." Keep saying
something like that until reality changes for the better
for you. Most times it only takes a matter of hours for
this to happen.
If you stay with your personalities desires, you may come
from fear and doubt and your hurt will stay there much
longer. So whenever you are hurt and you want to do
something to retaliate, stop and ask to learn the lesson
from love and wisdom even if it is difficult and you really
don't want to. You will be amazed how quickly things will
turn around in your favour, and by doing this you will
always know that you are in alignment with what your soul
needs to experience this lifetime.
Remember: your soul always wants to learn from love and
wisdom, anything other than that is coming from your
personalities desires and needs.
So how do you forgive when you are given an opportunity to
do so? Well the first thing you do is start by stating
clearly that even though you are in pain, you want to get
to a place of absolute forgiveness. This can be difficult
at first, but just by making that intention you are really
starting the ball of forgiveness to roll.
Just the realization of how detrimental to your own health
not forgiving is, is a great impetus to start forgiving.
You are only hurting your self and the whole thing is
happening for you to get to a higher place of love than you
previously were. Yes I know it is incredibly difficult at
times, but the more difficult it is, the more reason you
need to do it because you are holding such a huge deal of
pain inside your body that must be healed.
Just remember when you forgive, you release all the
blockages related to that particular issue, you will become
lighter, life will be more joyful, you will become a space
that is available for more love. A whole new reality will
open for you, a complete change around, life will be
radically different for you. It is even possible that this
could be the real reason why the situation that caused you
the pain happened in the first place.
When you start seeing that life is never doing anything to
you, it's all happening to get you to your greatness, then
you move from the consciousness of the victim to the
conscious creator.
Forgiveness is one of the most underestimated tools we can
use to really find our greatness.
Maharishi said "What other people?" meaning we are all one,
so when you forgive someone else what you are effectively
doing is forgiving that part of your self that has showed
up as another. I know that may sound a little far fetched
but take my word for it for now, every-time you forgive
someone else you are actually forgiving a deep unknown part
of your self.
To end with, don't forget to do the work on your self too,
we are so good at telling ourselves that we should be
better at this that or the other, but give your self a
break, spend a few minutes each day forgiving your self for
being the way you are, if you are not this yet or you don’t
have that yet or you think you should look better, just
forgive your self, it may even bring tears to your eyes as
you realize you are beautiful just the way you are.
God doesn't make faulty products!!!
So all you have to do is make a conscious decision that you
are going to forgive and then sit quietly and start that
process, just by stating it, then asking your non-physical
teachers to help you to forgive ............ It will all
start to unfold little bit by little bit, small or even big
miracles will happen to help you on your road to
forgiveness and discovering your greatness.
You must keep at it though, some days you will feel like
you are getting there and then others you will feel like
you are going backwards, just keep at it, you deserve the
rewards that will come your way with forgiveness.
Cool
quote for today.
Even if you get the whole world, your pleasure will be
trivial; but in giving, you may give only a rose flower,
your joy will be that of an emperor. - Osho